The Grind of Rebuilding

October 6, 2014 was my first day in a role with a new company since I was 19 years old. When the nail I had been laying on became uncomfortable enough, I had no choice but to develop a definite plan for making a change. Even then, though, definiteness of decision was what turned that plan into actio...

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Definiteness of Plans Emerges in Uncertainty

Years ago, I heard a story of a traveler stopping at a farmhouse along a country road to ask for directors. As the traveler spoke with the old man sitting on the front porch, he noticed that the dog laying beside him was constantly moaning, albeit quietly. The traveler asked the old man if there was...

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Building on Adverse Experiences

The “demotion promotion” stung for sure, but it wasn’t anywhere close to the challenges we dealt with over the four or five years leading up to that. We had nurtured the seeds from each and were on much more stable ground, financially and emotionally. Truth be told, fending off foreclosure, reeling ...

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The Sting of a Pay Cut

In late July 2014, I received the best performance review in my career. At the risk of sounding arrogant, I deserved it. I had hired nearly 200 external candidates and filled at least a third as many internal positions, secured over $150 thousand dollars in grants to offset some of the training cost...

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When a “Win” Comes with a Cost

Regardless of the challenge or adversity, the one seed I’ve nurtured consistently since my early teens has been a strong work ethic. That, coupled with so many other leadership attributes I’ve slowly in the years since, helped me navigate the near-foreclosure experience, the crazy lowball offer that...

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Mining Professional Setbacks for Justice & Responsibility Seeds

Here’s a quick reminder: I’m not sharing any of this for sympathy. Hell, I don’t want it! I’m also not reliving any of this to shine a negative light on anyone. If that were the case, I’d be listing their names and tagging them on social media - and some of them absolutely deserve that and far more....

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Influence Earned in Silence

Because we chose to take a moral stand and just were not willing to compromise our values, our financial opportunities tied to that multi-level marketing venture never really recovered. But digging in on what I knew was right provided more value than we would have ever gotten there; the seeds that v...

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Isolation Tests Purpose

The cost of ostracism was real, financially and emotionally. In addition to all the private conversations painting us as the bad guys for taking a moral stand, the individual who actually told those ladies that he wouldn’t help them unless they slept with him got down right nasty about us in front o...

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Mining Scarcity for Purpose-Driven Seeds

As I’ve wrapped up each step in this process of Making the Best of YOUR Bad Situations, I’ve closed with five questions geared at challenging you to mine your similar experiences for the seeds of equal or greater benefit - and I’m about to do that here as well. Before that, though, I’ll detail one o...

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Definiteness of Plans and Self-Control Emerge

That registered letter detailing the impending foreclosure wasn’t just another financial kick in the gut, it hit my self-image every bit as hard. To everyone else, things still looked great. We both had more career advancement opportunities than many of our peers and our MLM business was getting all...

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Rock Bottom and the Moment of Truth

From late 2005 to late 2007, Cindy and I dedicated nearly every waking hour that we weren’t working in our day jobs and invested every spare dime we could scrape up into the MLM business that had provided us with a glimmer of hope that we could someday climb out the ridiculous scarcity we had been b...

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Mastery of Detail Grows in Trenches of Scarcity

When the ripple effects of scarcity spill into every waking moment, there’s little choice but to begin sifting through every possible detail in identifying each contributing factor and the primary root cause behind it. Today, Cindy and I include components of the DISC Model of Human Behavior in near...

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